As humans, we are wired for connection - we crave relationship with others. We want to feel seen, appreciated, and cared for by the people in our lives. Yet, many of us find ourselves stuck in relationships that aren’t meeting these needs - whether with family, friends or partners. We may feel ignored, disrespected, used or unappreciated. Or perhaps we are caught in the same recurring conflict over and over, with no solution in sight. While we may feel stuck or hopeless in these dynamics, I believe that they don’t have to stay that way.

Our past experiences deeply influence the way we navigate relationships in the present. From the earliest moments of our lives, we observe and absorb the dynamics of those around us, from caregivers to peers, forming templates for how we relate to others. For so many of us, healthy relationships were not modeled or taught to us as little ones. The unhealthy patterns we witnessed or were a part of, whether conscious or unconscious, often manifest in our adult relationships and shape our attachment, communication styles, and conflict resolution.

For those of us with people-pleasing tendencies, this can look like suppressing our own needs, finding it impossible to say “no”, and playing the role of family mediator, because it’s our responsibility that everyone gets along with one another. For others, conflict was modeled by biting your tongue and "being the bigger person”, which can sometimes look like shoving your feelings down, exploding when we can can’t shove them down any longer, and then sweeping the mess under the rug for it to never be talked about again. (Spoiler: if we keep sweeping it under the rug, eventually we trip on it).

We know these cycles of communication and conflict aren’t working, but they are all we know. Conflict feels scary or useless, and we don’t know how to have it in a way that feels good and productive. How do I tell someone they’ve hurt me instead of lashing out? How do I share my feelings without it starting a huge fight? What if they get defensive? What if they’re not willing to change? What if my relationship with them changes?

Yet, amidst the complexities of relational dynamics, there exists a beacon of hope: the transformative power of self-awareness and a willingness to learn and change. Just as we unconsciously model the behaviors we have witnessed, we possess the innate capacity to unlearn detrimental patterns and cultivate healthier ones.

Through compassionate guidance and evidence-based interventions, I empower my clients to embark on a journey of self-reflection and growth, fostering a deeper understanding of themselves and their relational patterns. Central to my approach is the belief that every individual has the potential to cultivate fulfilling and meaningful connections. Through looking beneath the surface of our behavior (Where did I learn this behavior? Is it getting my needs met? What can I replace it with?) we can learn to identify our underlying beliefs and emotions driving this behavior, and instead practice directly (and vulnerably) communicating our emotions and needs. Through this process of self-reflection and introspection, clients develop the tools and skills necessary to communicate effectively, navigate conflicts constructively, and establish boundaries that honor their well-being.

Moreover, I recognize that the journey towards building healthy relationships is not a solitary endeavor. It is a collaborative partnership, grounded in empathy, trust, and mutual respect. Together, we will create a safe and supportive environment where you feel safe to explore vulnerabilities, challenge beliefs that are keeping them stuck, and experiment with new ways of relating. We are resilient beings capable of profound growth and change.

Through my work, I have witnessed the profound ripple effects of healing and growth within relationships. Couples rediscover the joy of genuine connection, families learn to communicate with authenticity and empathy, and individuals forge deeper bonds with themselves and others. In each success story lies a testament to the resilience of the human spirit and the limitless potential for change.

As you navigate the complexities of relationships, know that you are not alone. Together, we can unravel the intricacies of your unique journey, uncovering the insights and wisdom that will guide you towards greater fulfillment and connection. With dedication, compassion, and a commitment to growth, you can cultivate the relationships you deserve – relationships grounded in authenticity, intimacy, and mutual respect.